What is homesickness? Are we ever really prepared for it? And, why do we long for the familiar even when better options present themselves? Because change is hard.
This was fantastic! As someone who has moved quite a bit in my adult life, I appreciated and related to the tension, discomfort, and ultimately sorrow that one experiences, even from a move that you choose. A very rich, thoughtful reflection on change. Great job, Mary.
Perspective. Change is inevitable and embracing and adapting to it as quickly as possible sets me up for success. I am not efficient at it yet, but I am training my mind and heart to alternate my perspective from one to another.
There is a quote by Epictetus that resonates with me and which your writing reminds me of, "Every event has two handles – one by which it can be carried, and one by which it can’t. If your brother does you wrong, don’t grab it by his wronging, because this is the handle incapable of lifting it. Instead, use the other – that he is your brother, that you were raised together, and then you will have hold of the handle that carries”
Thank you for offering your wisdom and perspective, Mary. Infusing a nugget of gold from Robert Eral Keen added so much color, made me smile, and filled my heart this morning.
Matt, this lesson by Epictetus (who I wasn't familiar with until you just dropped some knowledge in the comment) deserves its own newsletter! It's so good. I did a little digging on Epictetus and am a fan of his approach to life and its challenges. As he describes it, we can't change what happens to us, though we must be responsible for our response to outside factors. I call this detachment, and it's a theme I definitely like digging into because it can really help us categorize how we operate in the world- sorting through what is ours to handle and what is not. And of course, coming from my perspective, I see that type of delineation as immensely liberating when, say, someone has their life upended by a life-changing diagnosis.
This was fantastic! As someone who has moved quite a bit in my adult life, I appreciated and related to the tension, discomfort, and ultimately sorrow that one experiences, even from a move that you choose. A very rich, thoughtful reflection on change. Great job, Mary.
Thank you, Vimbo! You are certainly an expert on life changes. I’m glad you appreciated 🙏💓
Perspective. Change is inevitable and embracing and adapting to it as quickly as possible sets me up for success. I am not efficient at it yet, but I am training my mind and heart to alternate my perspective from one to another.
There is a quote by Epictetus that resonates with me and which your writing reminds me of, "Every event has two handles – one by which it can be carried, and one by which it can’t. If your brother does you wrong, don’t grab it by his wronging, because this is the handle incapable of lifting it. Instead, use the other – that he is your brother, that you were raised together, and then you will have hold of the handle that carries”
Thank you for offering your wisdom and perspective, Mary. Infusing a nugget of gold from Robert Eral Keen added so much color, made me smile, and filled my heart this morning.
Matt, this lesson by Epictetus (who I wasn't familiar with until you just dropped some knowledge in the comment) deserves its own newsletter! It's so good. I did a little digging on Epictetus and am a fan of his approach to life and its challenges. As he describes it, we can't change what happens to us, though we must be responsible for our response to outside factors. I call this detachment, and it's a theme I definitely like digging into because it can really help us categorize how we operate in the world- sorting through what is ours to handle and what is not. And of course, coming from my perspective, I see that type of delineation as immensely liberating when, say, someone has their life upended by a life-changing diagnosis.
You've given me some new reading material!