A Little Coffee Talk on Fear, Truth & Tiny Brave Steps

Good Morning, Let’s Have Coffee

I’m so happy you’re here.

I don’t have the lights on like I usually do—this is a more deconstructed morning. I figured we could have coffee together. This is our little coffee chat, so thank you for being here.

When You Show Up, It Matters

Every time you open a video, email, or Reel from me, it means something. It’s important to have these conversations about tough times, and your presence here means so much to me personally. It reminds me we’re sharing this space together.

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Let’s Take Stock

Life gets hard in so many ways. But I also want to take time to enjoy the small, lovely moments. That’s why today is just a little coffee talk—a short conversation.

I wish it could be two-way! Please feel free to write me back, leave a message, a DM, or a comment. I love the discussion. A lot of what I talk about here comes from real conversations I’m having with real people—with some of you! So today feels like a nice time to pause and take stock of the week: the good and the bad.

So today, take a moment.
What was the best part of your week?
Let it come to mind, honor it, and sit with it so it doesn’t slip away.

And then:
What was hard? What challenged you this week?
Hold that too. Why was it hard? What did you learn? If you’ve moved through it, give yourself a big ole pat on the back.

Things are hard. But we’re here. It’s Friday!

I know some people do the “roses and thorns” practice. I’ve never done that—maybe I’m even quoting it wrong—but at the dinner table, some parents ask their kids, “What was the highlight of your day? What was a low point?” I’m starting to ask that too, even though my daughter is only two years old. I think it’s good for my husband and me, because as you know, things have been hard.

Why We Can’t Ignore the Hard Stuff

We can’t sweep our low points under the rug. That only gives fear more power. You know I love talking about fear—how to dismantle it, take the power out of it, and reclaim that energy for ourselves. (I’ve written a bunch about this on Substack.)

Look for the Bright Spots

Let’s start with identifying the fear. The thing we’re avoiding. The thing that’s creeping in where we don’t want it. It might be something like paying a bill you’ve been dreading, applying for a job you don’t feel qualified for, or going to a social event that gives you anxiety.

Making our minds a place we want to be

Whatever it is, fear is rarely the full reality. So let’s pull that fear out into the light. Name it. Write it down. That’s what I do, especially when I’m in a spiral or lying awake at night with anxiety. Writing it down takes it out of your mind and gives it a container. It becomes something separate from you.

So: pull the fear out. Get it off the hamster wheel in your mind. Give yourself a little breathing room.

The Simple Fear Practice

Start by identifying the fear. Name it. Write it down.

That thing you’re avoiding—paying the bill, applying for the job, going to the event—whatever it is, that fear isn’t the full truth. Pull it out. Let it sit beside you.

Then ask:
What is my truth?

The truth is always better. It’s just being blocked by fear in that moment. So bring it forward. Feel it. Let it in.

From Fear to Action

Once you’ve found the truth, ask yourself:
What’s one small thing I can do that’s aligned with this truth?

Acting from that place, even just one small thing, helps you become the version of yourself that already exists inside you.

Thanks for Being Here

I’m glad we could sit down. This is real-life morning energy. This is my actual coffee. I have gunk in my throat from allergies. This is a very unfiltered, real, basic kind of moment.

Thank you for being here with me. I really appreciate you being here. I hope you have a wonderful weekend—or a beautiful moment of quiet whenever you’re reading this. And I hope you honor the spirit within you.

Bye 💛

And until next time,
M

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